Thursday, February 28, 2013
You have put your trust in your care provider – whether that person is a Dr. a Dentist or, in my field, an IBCLC. You think you are getting good care, but something doesn’t feel right. And you realize that not only have you not received good care – you (or your child) have actually been harmed in some way. What do you do?
In my field I often talk to parents about poor care they have received from other practitioners. They are angry, hurt and confused. They don’t understand why their care provider would ‘do that’ to them. In one case a mom and baby came to me 8 wks postpartum and the baby was 3 ounces above birth weight. The Pediatrician had told mother he was fine because he was gaining – just gaining slowly. No – he wasn’t fine. In another case, a mother was treated horribly (witnessed by her partner and doula) by an OB/GYN during her delivery. The treatment bordered on malpractice. She was traumatized, baby had been injured – parents did not know what to do. In yet another case, an outpatient-clinic IBCLC sent a baby home below birth-weight at 2 weeks of age and told mom there was nothing that could be done to resolve the baby’s anterior tongue-tie and significant torticollis and to just feed him a bottle of formula. Another mom was told by her IBCLC that If she didn’t do the recommended treatment she was a bad mother. And lastly another parent told me of how she had pre-paid for a consult with another IBCLC and yet, while her money is gone, no consult ever happened and the IBCLC in question refused to respond to her many emails. These are just a few instances - I know of many more. In each of these cases I told the parents the same thing I tell any person who has been treated poorly or harmed by their care provider: FILE a Formal Complaint.
All of the above examples are clear cases that warrant a formal complaint being filed. As humans we have the right to expect our care providers will do what is best for us, treat us with respect and work to protect our health. When they don’t we actually DO have options. The trick is to actually follow through.
Many parents are just wiped out, exhausted, dealing with a new baby and dealing with potential fallout from poor care by a provider. They feel they just don’t have the energy it takes to file that complaint. I get it – I really do. 18 yrs ago an IBCLC acted quite unethically with me and I was disgusted – but I was exhausted and working to try and get my breastfeeding challenges worked out. My primary IBCLC was a God-Send – this other one? Not so much. But I didn’t know I could file a complaint against her. And even if I had, I don’t know that I would have because of my state of exhaustion and lack of support at home. Her unethical actions still haunt me (they taught me what NOT to do as an IBCLC!), and it is too late for me to file that complaint. However, I wish I had known that I could have…because had I done that there is the good chance that she would have been disciplined, re-educated or even perhaps stripped of her IBCLC Credential…something! As it was – I did nothing and her behavior continued – for years.
I knew there were procedures for filing complaints against other practitioners, and as I got into the field I learned that there was also a process for filing a complaint with the IBLCE (International Board of Lactation Consultant Examiners). The IBLCE is the Governing Body for IBCLCs. They tell us what our Scope of Practice is (we can and cannot do), and what our Code of Ethics and Code of Professional Conduct are. And when those are violated it’s a problem – for everyone.
So, I started encouraging moms to FILE when they had cause. Some did, but most didn’t because they were too hurt (betrayed) by the care provider, too tired, too busy. They didn’t think their words would be enough to make a change happen. I get it, I really do. But at some point we need to stand up for ourselves and our children and take a stand that will help us and help others. If we know others who have been harmed by a particular provider, we can work to support each other as we file our complaints. One thing we know is that when we have been harmed, if we have the support to, and knowledge how, to stand up for ourselves it can be very healing! And the other thing we know is that Change does not happen if no one speaks up! This Blog Post is to help YOU out there who have been harmed stand up for yourself and your babies and file that complaint when you have cause.
Many moms fear retaliation from a disgruntled care provider, and I understand that too. (Believe me I will get a lot of anger and probably some hate mail over this post!) But I believe that if we can set that aside for just a moment (and know that if retaliation does occur we have options there too) we can heal ourselves, and help others in the process. We must recognize that if a care provider is hurting us, they surely have or will hurt someone else. If no one stands up to stop it, it just continues. Taking back our personal power from someone who harmed us is amazing! Yes – I have done that – and it WAS amazingly healing!
So – what do we do?
When our Dr. hurts us we can file a complaint with the medical board. Google ‘file a medical complaint’ and you will find links for each state and how to file. Same thing with a Dentist, Chiropractor, Massage Therapist, Midwife and even hairdresser – a Google search will bring the information up easily enough. If you search for “Association breastfeeding complaints procedure” you will find links to file complaints against lactation professionals in other countries. Google ‘complaints IBCLC” and you will find what you need as well if you have been harmed or treated inappropriately by an IBCLC.
My parting comment is this: Regarding ANY care provider – if you or your child has been harmed or think you have been harmed, been treated inappropriately, unethically, etc., investigate and make sure you have cause – and if you do - file that complaint. Don’t just let it go; don’t fear retaliation to the point that it stops you from taking a stand for yourself. (Blocking people via internet is surprisingly easy!) Protect yourselves and help protect others…we all benefit with that.
Take back your power…